If you’ve started planning your wedding, then you’ve already realized that there are what feels like millions of details that need to be considered, vetted, and selected. If you think your only consideration when it comes to your wedding stationery is for a single invitation with the essential 411 (date, time, location), take a step back and consider the bigger picture. If you have friends and family traveling from all corners of the country (or world!) to celebrate your big day with you, you need more than just an 8 x 5 postcard.
Part I: Wedding Theme Terms
You have a vision for how you want your wedding invitations and day-of stationery to look, but you’re struggling to articulate your ideas using precisely the right words. At RSVP to me, there are no piles of books to sort through or pre-designed restrictions. Everything we design is custom-made and hand built to fit your wedding. To help you put into words what you see in your mind when you picture all the details that surround your big day, we’ve created a two-part blog series to define essential terms you should know when talking to your wedding stationer. Here in Part I, we’re breaking down wedding theme terms. In Part II, we’ll get specific with material names, paper styles, and adornment types.
We can’t imagine any place more beautiful for a wedding than New Jersey, but we know that many couples want to plan an exotic, far-flung destination wedding. Sometimes it’s to accommodate bringing families together from across the country (or globe!) and sometimes it’s just out of a desire to say I Do in an exotic location. No matter your reasons, planning a destination wedding can pose some logistical challenges. After all, it can be challenging to meet with caterers, look at floral options, or visit reception venues that are thousands of miles away, unless you plan on racking up some serious frequent flyer miles. Here are seven expert tips to help you plan a destination wedding—without going anywhere.
There are many traditions surrounding weddings and all of their associated events and activities. Also, standards in etiquette encompass every wedding-related element, from how you should organize your seating chart, to behaving like a proper wedding guest. There is even essential etiquette to follow, both as the party planner, and as a guest, surrounding a bridal shower. If you are unsure if you know all the rules and requirements of a well-organized and executed bridal shower, we have ten essential etiquette tips you should know before planning (or attending) a bridal shower.
When we think of weddings, we think of white. White dress, white flower petals, and white tablecloths. While white is traditional, classic, and a beautiful reflection of true love and purity, weddings, like life, should be experienced in color. If you’re feeling the pressure to have a traditional white wedding, but deep down you are craving color, then answer the call of the color wheel.
In an article written for Bridal Guide, celebrity wedding planner (and one of our favorites to work with!) David Tutera (@DavidTutera) explains “Color is actually an extension of you, as a bride, and the hues you choose will affect everything — from the ink and paper choices of your invitations to your bridesmaids’ dresses to your bouquets and floral centerpieces to your tablecloths, your specialty cocktails and even your favors.” We couldn’t agree more (especially about the invites!). One of the first conversations we have with brides is about their wedding color themes. Our goal is to reflect the nuances of a bride’s color pallet in her custom invitations. To help you choose the colors that will reflect the essence of your wedding, keep the following tips in mind:
Consider the Atmosphere of your Venue
Hosting a beach wedding on the Jersey Shore? Consider shades of ocean blue, sea foam green, pewter gray, and sunny yellow. Planning a rustic barn wedding? Think natural wood beige, mint green, and sunflower yellow. Going vintage at the elegant Ramsey Country Club? Think champagne, blush, rose, and sage green. Your colors should fit the setting. If a location speaks to you, draw inspiration from the surrounding colors.
There is a reason why we are drawn to dark colors in the winter and light colors in the summer. Dark colors make us feel safe, enveloped, and warm. Light colors feel breezy, effervescent, and light. For your winter wedding, consider the comfort of deep burgundy, navy, and eggplant. For your spring wedding, consider a pallet that promises new life and the reawakening of nature, like clover green, robin’s egg blue, and daffodil yellow. If you’re getting married in the summer, keep your guests feeling cool in taupe, sky blue, and lilac. If your big day is planned for the autumn, choose colors that feel like they are still holding on to the last remnants of summer heat. Choose bunt orange, coffee brown, and royal blue.
Remember the Dress
According to premiere celebrity wedding planner Yifat Oren, it’s okay to break from traditional white wedding rules when it comes to your wedding dress too. In an interview with Los Angeles Racked, Oren states: “Gone are the days where you have to stick to basic white, cream or ivory for your wedding wear. Choose a color that more suits your personality. Blush, coral or a soft peach gown breaks the traditional white-dress-only mold and offers a great start to a more unique day.” Get inspired by this pink wedding dress by Isaac Mizrahi featured on Brides.com (photo credit: Brides.com)
Draw inspiration from celebrities.
Celebrities are often on the cutting edge of the latest trends. They are style visionaries, rule-breakers, and fashion muses. Find inspiration in their wedding color schemes. We adored the color pallet chosen by Dancing With the Stars Pro Lindsay Arnold Cusick (@lindsayarnold). When we designed her wedding invitations, we used blush pink, champagne, and ivory. (Photo Credit: Anna Hurt Photography)
For those who want to follow what’s trendy, there are two colors of the year for 2016 – a first ! Imagine yourself walking down the aisle surrounded by rose quartz and serenity.
For more wedding color inspiration, check out the Perfect Pallette. Pick one color swatch you feel drawn to, and the site will provide you with a photo gallery of inspiring wedding imagery that reflects your chosen color.
Whatever you choose, make sure your color pallet resonates with you. When you see your wedding color theme reflected in your invitations, flowers, and place settings, it should feel as perfectly you as the man standing beside you.
You’ve said “yes” to the man of your dreams! You’ve cried, celebrated, and posted photos of the ring to Facebook. Take a deep breath, because now it’s time to plan!
Planning every detail of the biggest day of your life can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to turn your greatest joy into your greatest stress. I’ve been privileged to help hundreds of brides over the past ten years to make their wedding personal and unique, and have learned a special lesson from every special occasion. If you feel like you’re drowning in cake samples, RSVP cards, and place setting options, take a moment to reflect on my list of ten “I Dos” and “Do Knots” for planning the perfect wedding.
DO: Make it Personal
Your wedding day should be a reflection on the special relationship you have with your fiancé. Think about what makes your love unique. Every couple has a story, so make sure your wedding helps to showcase your past, present, and future. Choose colors, a venue, fabrics, materials, and flowers that are meaningful. If you and your fiancé love your life in the city, plan a wedding that reflects your urban chic lifestyle. If you met in the park, consider a color scheme that reminds you of how you met, with lush greens, sky blues, and tan accents reflected in your wedding invitations, flowers, and place settings. If you both dream of living on the coast some day, incorporate nautical design elements into your theme to be reminded of everything the future holds.
Do Knot Just Follow the Trends
Think twice before letting a vendor encourage you to do “what everyone is doing this season.” Unless you feel a connection with the colors, styles, and themes of the moment, remember that trends pass, but your marriage will last forever, and your wedding should reflect the key element in your relationship that makes your love eternal.
Do Incorporate The Ones You Love
Wedding guest lists can expand like taffeta before you know it. Sit down and think about everyone who has been an important part of your life. When you look around the room on your wedding day, you want to see the faces of everyone you and your fiancé love and everyone that has influenced the people you have become. When it comes to choosing a bridal party, ask yourself who you want standing beside you when you take your vows. Who has always stood beside you and who will always stand beside you when life becomes challenging? Those are the people who should be part of your bridal party.
Do Knot Let Others Decide Your Guest List
When planning your guest list try not to be influenced by others. If you can’t remember the last name of your mother’s father’s cousin’s niece twice removed, don’t feel guilty for not extending her a wedding invitation. The same goes for your bridal party. Choose only the people you want to be an intimate part of your special day.
Do Say Individual Thank Yous
You are likely going to form a long list of friends and family who help make your dream wedding a reality. Say a personal thank you in your own words to your parents, soon to be in-laws, bridal party members, and guests for helping you to celebrating the start of your new lives. Choose personal and unique gifts for your bridal party members that reflect the theme of your wedding, and that will serve as a permanent reminder of the important role they play in your life. Send thank you cards timely and include a personal message on each one that expresses your gratitude for the role the recipient has played in your life and in your wedding.
Do Knot Forget the Importance of Saying it Out Loud
Don’t take it for granted that your friends and family know how much they mean to you. Telling them in your own words will mean more to both of you, and will give you even more special memories of your wedding day that will last forever.
Do Plan Your Place Settings
Your wedding will be a day that brings people together. Use your place settings as an opportunity to reunite cousins who now liveon other sides of the country, college classmates who haven’t seen one other in years, and even to bring together two sides of your new family. Remember that the one thing that all of your guests have in common is you. That’s all they need to enjoy celebrating with one another.
Do Knot Forget to Enjoy Your Dinner
Do mingle during dinner to thank your guests, but do not miss the opportunity to sample the meal you painstakingly selected! You will have plenty of time to celebrate with your guests out on the dance floor after dinner too.
Do Focus On One Another
With so much to orchestrate on your wedding day, so many people to thank, so many guests, and so much to do, your big day will fly by before you know it. Be sure that once you say, “I do” that you spend the rest of your wedding day with your new husband. Hold hands, pose for photos, mingle together, dance, and celebrate your love.
Do Knot Forget The Day’s True Meaning
Your wedding will last one day, but your marriage will last forever. As you make decisions about flowers, appetizers, RSVP cards, music, and dessert tables, take comfort in knowing that you have already made the most important decision in your lives: you chose each other.
The saying “Time Flies When You’re Having Fun” certainly holds true as we are ecstatic and sit in awe as we celebrate our TEN YEAR ANNIVERSARY! Firstly we want to thank each and every one of our clients. With your vision, patience and trust in us, you allowed us to be a part of each and every wedding, baby shower, holiday and all of your special milestones. To honor this very special year we will be holding “top ten” throughout the entire year of 2016 with special giveaways, offers and even a celebration, so be sure to stay tuned and continue to follow us on Facebook.
Now how did it all start…
‘RSVP to me’ was created around the time of my own wedding, in August of 2006. I began a search for invitations that would absolutely “WOW” my guests. I was looking for something non-traditional, yet elegant; unusual, but not “over-the-top”. after a long, unsuccessful search, I decided to experiment with various papers, prints and embellishments – trying to fashion what I would have liked to have found, but couldn’t. After many days of hard work and trial and error, I created not only my own invitations, but also my save-the-dates, programs, escort and favor cards, and even thank you cards!
At my wedding, I received so many unbelievable compliments on my invitations and stationery. It was great to hear that my friends and family loved my work. Then it occurred to me – wouldn’t it be wonderful if I could create great invitations and stationery for my family and friends? as I took on a few small orders, my budding venture expanded. By word of mouth the orders grew and my venture rapidly evolved into ‘RSVP to me’, a small but thriving business.
Years later, and as a result of my continued success, I’ve established a “new look” for ‘RSVP to me’…which brings forth a contemporary and sophisticated style for wedding and special occasion invitations, while keeping up with styles and trends.
One of the first things brides must decide on when planning their weddings is a color scheme, usually one that fits with the season or time of year when she is getting married. What I’ve noticed after working in the “wedding business” for several years is that PURPLE is often a popular choice when choosing color combinations for a wedding! In fact, when sorting through and organizing my stacks and stacks (and stacks!) of leftover invitation paper recently, I came across SO many shades and variations of the color purple. This gorgeous color needed far more storage space than some others. So… you may be wondering what is so special about PURPLE?
What I think makes PURPLE such a perfect color for weddings is that it is so versatile, meaning you can pair it with just about ANY other color. Even if PURPLE is not your favorite color, put it next to your favorite color and you will have a great combination! Just browse Pinterest to see what I mean… check out how PURPLE can be used with all of these other colors to make a fabulous palate for your wedding! Click on any photo to see more ideas of how to use these awesome color combinations!
As you can see, PURPLE looks amazing with so many different colors and shades!!! You can’t go wrong with this color choice. No matter the month, season, or style of your wedding, purple is sure to work in some way. If you want to talk more about colors for your wedding invitations or wedding day stationery, hit me up! I LOVE this stuff! Here are some invitations we have designed using PURPLE! Maybe one will inspire you to use PURPLE in a new way for your own wedding or upcoming celebration!
I can’t tell you how many brides come to me with the same story … “I tried to make my own invitations, but it was just too frustrating!” Or…”I tried to do my save-the-dates…I will NEVER do THAT again!”
While Pinterest is a great tool for brides, it can also be very deceiving. Everything is made to look “simple.” How many pins have you seen for “Easy DIY Wedding Invitations?” The wedding invitations in the picture look amazing, so you click the link only to discover that the title is misleading. A more appropriate title would be:
“101 Steps for Creating Mediocre Wedding Invitations”
Some brides aren’t scared by a long list of steps, so they decide to carve out the necessary time and energy to attempt their own wedding invitations thinking “How hard can it be?” What they don’t expect is the headache that comes with it… there are so many things that can go wrong! Every step becomes an obstacle…
Just see what this bride had to say about her DIY experience!
“I spent hours in Word trying to design the perfect invite (if I only knew then…) and fighting to try and get it to do what I wanted … I came up with this elaborate (and looking back on it, kinda ridiculous) design that involved snowflake printed clear wrap, vellum, standard paper, etc. My only option for adhesive seemed to be spray glue. I spent a huge amount of time assembling these invitations, making a mess of pretty much everything, getting cat hair stuck to my invites, everything stuck to my floor, and generally using any and every curse word I could come up with to describe this project. I spent hours and hours printing a myriad of different inserts, wasting tons of paper because of my crappy printer and lack of proofreading, alternately wanting to cry and run away. But, I was stuck with it. (And that’s not all!) Having to design completely different invites because we decided to invite work friends and I had no more paper. Having invitations start falling apart before they were even sent because of using spray glue. Having to send envelopes out with spelling mistakes because I hadn’t bothered to order extra. It went on and on…
When it was all over I swore I would NEVER, EVER do it again (and to this day I often say to clients that if I were to have another wedding, I would hire someone else to create my invitations). I had spent somewhere around $1500-2000 on my wedding stationery, and WAY too much time, and I could have easily used that same amount of money to have something fantastic done by an honest-to-goodness stationer. I hadn’t taken into consideration the real cost of DIY.” (Click here for the complete disaster story from The Invitation Blog at Hip Ink.)
BUT WAIT, there’s more! Many other brides share similar DIY experiences… I couldn’t help but smirk while reading “The Great Wedding Invitation Disaster of 2009.” And ANOTHER…”You’re Invited (Part I): A DIY Invitation Disaster.” This bride had so much trouble with her “DIY adventure” that she had to write about it in TWO parts!! See “You’re Invited (Part II): Assembling the Troops” to read about the rest of the mess she endured! The list of DIY invitation disasters is endless!
In just those three stories alone, the list of potential problems for DIY wedding invitations is a long one: spending hours in word processing, reformatting templates again and again and again, having to completely re-do initial designs, paper colors not what expected, having to re-order (for a fee), spray glue (enough said), messy assembly, spending more hours printing, wasting paper, spelling errors due to lack of proofreading, running out of supplies, invites falling apart before they even reach the mailbox, problems with printing companies, text smudging, throwing away invitations, paying for a second printing, and even invitations blown away in the wind!!
Not to mention other problems I’ve heard brides lament about when attempting to DIY: printing invitations upside down, making millions of trips to the craft store, frustrations over learning new design software, assembly taking f.o.r.e.v.e.r, printers jamming and/or running out of ink, and of course many tears shed over these seemingly-menial-but-still-so-important-wedding-details.
The list could go on and on and on! Think you’re saving time and money?? THINK AGAIN!
Brides who contact me quickly realize that allowing a professional to handle the job allows them to relax, knowing that the finished product will look far better than anything they could make on their own! Plus, it frees them up to focus on other important wedding decisions. There’s just so much to do — why add the stress of designing and assembling invitations too? Take it from me (I know how much time and energy it takes to make beautiful invitations!)… this is one thing you will be glad you didn’t take on yourself!
It’s your special day! Let your invitations reflect how important your wedding truly is. We at ‘RSVP to me’ would love to assist you by creating custom wedding invitations for your upcoming celebration! Share your vision with us and we can create it!
Kristen and Jamie chose neutral colors, coordinated ever so elegantly with gold glitter and a fun kaleidoscope pattern for the invitation – a perfect introduction to what would be an elegant and sophisticated fall wedding. The wedding day stationery followed suit and kept in perfect taste as they were so beautifully displayed for the guests. The table name cards displayed “wedding oriented” Hawaiian words with the English translation – a fun touch that was significant to Kristen and Jamie as a couple.
Photo by Emily Photography
Kristen and Jamie’s stationery, candy buffet and overall decor set forward a perfect example of how simple elegance, sophistication and a flair for “fun” all comes together to help create one happy wedding day! We wish you both a life full of love, laughter and bliss, xo