Why NOT to DIY Wedding Invitations!

A friend recently shared this photo with me and I burst out laughing because it is SO TRUE!
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I can’t tell you how many brides come to me with the same story … “I tried to make my own invitations, but it was just too frustrating!”  Or…”I tried to do my save-the-dates…I will NEVER do THAT again!”

While Pinterest is a great tool for brides, it can also be very deceiving. Everything is made to look “simple.” How many pins have you seen for “Easy DIY Wedding Invitations?” The wedding invitations in the picture look amazing, so you click the link only to discover that the title is misleading. A more appropriate title would be:

“101 Steps for Creating Mediocre Wedding Invitations”

Some brides aren’t scared by a long list of steps, so they decide to carve out the necessary time and energy to attempt their own wedding invitations thinking “How hard can it be?” What they don’t expect is the headache that comes with it… there are so many things that can go wrong! Every step becomes an obstacle…

Just see what this bride had to say about her DIY experience!

“I spent hours in Word trying to design the perfect invite (if I only knew then…) and fighting to try and get it to do what I wanted … I came up with this elaborate (and looking back on it, kinda ridiculous) design that involved snowflake printed clear wrap, vellum, standard paper, etc.  My only option for adhesive seemed to be spray glue. I spent a huge amount of time assembling these invitations, making a mess of pretty much everything, getting cat hair stuck to my invites, everything stuck to my floor, and generally using any and every curse word I could come up with to describe this project. I spent hours and hours printing a myriad of different inserts, wasting tons of paper because of my crappy printer and lack of proofreading, alternately wanting to cry and run away. But, I was stuck with it. (And that’s not all!) Having to design completely different invites because we decided to invite work friends and I had no more paper. Having invitations start falling apart before they were even sent because of using spray glue. Having to send envelopes out with spelling mistakes because I hadn’t bothered to order extra. It went on and on…

When it was all over I swore I would NEVER, EVER do it again (and to this day I often say to clients that if I were to have another wedding, I would hire someone else to create my invitations). I had spent somewhere around $1500-2000 on my wedding stationery, and WAY too much time, and I could have easily used that same amount of money to have something fantastic done by an honest-to-goodness stationer. I hadn’t taken into consideration the real cost of DIY.” (Click here for the complete disaster story from The Invitation Blog at Hip Ink.)

BUT WAIT, there’s more! Many other brides share similar DIY experiences… I couldn’t help but smirk while reading “The Great Wedding Invitation Disaster of 2009.” And ANOTHER…”You’re Invited (Part I): A DIY Invitation Disaster.” This bride had so much trouble with her “DIY adventure” that she had to write about it in TWO parts!! See “You’re Invited (Part II): Assembling the Troops” to read about the rest of the mess she endured! The list of DIY invitation disasters is endless!

In just those three stories alone, the list of potential problems for DIY wedding invitations is a long one: spending hours in word processing, reformatting templates again and again and again, having to completely re-do initial designs, paper colors not what expected, having to re-order (for a fee), spray glue (enough said), messy assembly, spending more hours printing, wasting paper, spelling errors due to lack of proofreading, running out of supplies, invites falling apart before they even reach the mailbox, problems with printing companies, text smudging, throwing away invitations, paying for a second printing, and even invitations blown away in the wind!!

Not to mention other problems I’ve heard brides lament about when attempting to DIY: printing invitations upside down, making millions of trips to the craft store, frustrations over learning new design software, assembly taking f.o.r.e.v.e.r, printers jamming and/or running out of ink, and of course many tears shed over these seemingly-menial-but-still-so-important-wedding-details.

The list could go on and on and on! Think you’re saving time and money?? THINK AGAIN!

Brides who contact me quickly realize that allowing a professional to handle the job allows them to relax, knowing that the finished product will look far better than anything they could make on their own! Plus, it frees them up to focus on other important wedding decisions. There’s just so much to do — why add the stress of designing and assembling invitations too? Take it from me (I know how much time and energy it takes to make beautiful invitations!)… this is one thing you will be glad you didn’t take on yourself!

It’s your special day! Let your invitations reflect how important your wedding truly is. We at ‘RSVP to me’ would love to assist you by creating custom wedding invitations for your upcoming celebration! Share your vision with us and we can create it!

Five Tips for Addressing & Mailing your Wedding Invitations

“How do I address my wedding invitations?” is a common question that nearly every engaged couple thinks about. Hiring a calligrapher is always an option, but may not be a possibility, especially when you’re on a budget. For those who are planning on writing out your invitation envelopes, today we’re sharing five tips to help you through the process.

Square pocket invitations embellished with a pretty purple ribbon

1. Traditionally, wedding invitations are placed in an inner and outer envelope, however this is becoming less common and is completely up to you. If you’re opting for only an outer envelope, it’s extremely important to include exactly whom you’re inviting to your wedding, as typically you would include the invitees names on the inner envelope.

*Married couples are written on one line: 
Mr. and Mrs. Edward Smith

*Unmarried couples are written on separate lines
Mr. Paul Smith and
Ms. Katie Jones

*Family including those under the age of 18:
Mr. and Mrs. Edward Smith and Family
OR
Mr. and Mrs. Edward Smith
Master Zachary and Miss Emily Smith
OR
Mr. and Mrs. Edward Smith
Zachary, Emily and Makayla Smith

Modern purple and yellow wedding invitations by ‘RSVP to me

2. Whether your wedding is formal or casual, it’s proper etiquette to spell out all words rather than abbreviating. For example, write out the word “Street’ rather than the abbreviated, “St.”.  

3. Include your return address on the envelopes back flap.

Elegant pocket invitations in a neutral color palette with pops of blush pink and lavender

 
4. Hand addressing can be very time consuming. Give yourself plenty of time, be patient, and don’t try to address all of your envelopes in one sitting.

5. Before you purchase your postage, bring a completed invitation to your local post office to have it weighed. This ensures that you will purchase the correct postage. You would hate to pay too much or worse, too little postage.

While it’s important to consider etiquette when addressing your wedding invitations, remember to do what’s best for you and your to-be. In the end, your special day should reflect your personalities and you should be 100% comfortable in all of the details along the way. Happy planning!

Wedding Invitation Wording Etiquette: Part Three

Happy Monday! Over the last few weeks we’ve shared our expertise on wedding invitation and response card card wording. Today, we’re talking about reception cards. If you haven’t guessed it already, the reception enclosure card informs your guests where the party is going to take place, as well as time of events (i.e. cocktail hour and dinner). This is an important piece of your enclosure cards, especially if the ceremony will be held at another location. Have a little fun and put a twist on the traditional by playing with fonts, motifs, and various wording options.

Custom modern chandelier wedding invitations

PLEASE JOIN US FOR
DINNER and DANCING
BEGINNING AT SIX O’CLOCK IN THE EVENING
THE OLDE MILL INN
225 ROUTE 202
BASKING RIDGE, NEW JERSEY
*

THE CELEBRATION CONTINUES WITH
DINNER and DANCING
BEGINNING AT SIX O’CLOCK IN THE EVENING
THE OLDE MILL INN
225 ROUTE 202
BASKING RIDGE, NEW JERSEY

Custom wedding invitations designed in navy and fucshia


Choosing your wedding invitations doesn’t have to be dreadful. Work with an experienced invitation designer for a fun and stress-free experience who can not only design and assemble your invitations, but can answer all questions and provide etiquette information. Don’t forget, ‘RSVP to me‘ offers an extensive invitation word guide for all of our couples who need assistance!

Wedding Invitation Wording Etiquette: Part Two

If you’ve decided on the perfect wedding invitation wording that fits your personality, theme, and keeps both sets of parents happy, it’s time to focus on your response cards. While your wedding invitation sets the stage for your wedding day, your (returned) RSVP’s play a vital role for tallying an accurate guest count, as well as providing menu selections or dietary restrictions and in some cases, special requests, such as songs titles to add on to your reception playlist. Not sure where to start or what to include? Today, we’re giving you response card wording inspirations that will coordinate with every type of theme.

Traditional Response Card Wording

KINDLY REPLY ON OR BEFORE MAY 24TH

M_____________________________

_______ACCEPTS WITH PLEASURE
_______DECLINES WITH REGRET

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THE FAVOR OF YOUR RESPONSE IS REQUESTED BY MAY 17TH

GUEST NAMES___________________________________

______ ACCEPTS    ______DECLINES

PLEASE INDICATE THE NUMBER OF ENTRÉE PREFERENCES:
 _____FILET MIGNON  _____SALMON EN CROUTE
RESPOND ON OR BEFORE JULY 26
M____________________________________

_______YES  _______ NO

GUESTS ATTENDING ______OF______

ANY DIETARY REQUIREMENTS? __________________________


Fun Response Card Wording


RSVP ON OR BEFORE JULY 19

M____________________________________

ACCEPTS :
_____WILL BE THERE WITH BELLS ON!
_____WILL BE THERE FREE OF BELLS
_____WILL BE THERE… UNDECIDED ON BELLS

DECLINES:
_____WILL NOT BE THERE… HEARD THERE WILL BE PEOPLE WEARING BELLS
_____WILL NOT BE THERE…REGARDLESS OF THE BELL CONTROVERSY

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Mad Lib Response Card Wording

PLEASE RESPOND BY JUNE 1st
_____________________ JAKE,
GREETING
_____________________        _____________________
YOUR NAME(S)                          WILL/WILL NOT
BE THERE  TO _____________________
                         VERB
AS JAKE BECOMES A BAR MITZVAH.
WHEN THE INVITATION ARRIVED I/WE  
_____________________
PAST TENSE VERB
AND EXCLAIMED _____________________!!
                                EXCLAMATION/PHRASE
WE CAN’T WAIT TO SEE HIM 
 _____________________ THE TORAH.
VERB
I/WE WILL DANCE IF YOU PLAY   _____________________.
                                                                  SONG/ARTIST
Whether your wedding style is traditional, formal, or casual, this is your opportunity to let your personalities shine. Be creative in your wording, especially if you’re a laid back, lighthearted, or even humorous couple. Just don’t forget to include a pre-addressed AND stamped envelope for guests to easily reply “yes” or “no” to your wedding. After all, receiving your RSVP’s is part of the wedding invitation fun! Don’t forget ‘RSVP to me‘ can suggest MANY wording options during your wedding invitation design process.

Wedding Invitation Wording Etiquette: Part One

Choosing wedding invitations is an exciting part of the planning process that begins to make the wedding day a reality- aside from choosing that stunning white gown of course! But deciding on the wording that will be printed on your flawlessly curated design can be quite the headache. Wedding invitation wording has come a long way over the years from the traditional verbiage. From formal or casual, to even including parents’ names, you want to make sure you set the stage for your wedding day appropriately, while keeping etiquette in mind. If you’re not sure where to start, we’re here to help! We’ll be sharing our expertise on “Wedding Invitation Etiquette” in a several part series that covers various etiquette subjects that can be somewhat tricky to handle.

Custom gray and navy horizontal pocket wedding invitations

Whether the bride’s parents, bride and grooms parents, or the couple is inviting, here are just a few of the MANY options that make both sides of the family equally happy! (‘RSVP to me‘ now offers an extensive wedding invitation word guide for all of our couples who need help.)
Bride’s parents inviting
MR. AND MRS. BRIDE’S PARENTS
REQUEST THE HONOR OF YOUR PRESENCE
AT THE MARRIAGE OF THEIR DAUGHTER
BRIDE TO GROOM
SON OF MR. AND MRS. GROOMS PARENTS
SATURDAY, THE EIGHTEENTH OF OCTOBER, TWO THOUSAND SEVENTEEN
AT FOUR O’CLOCK IN THE AFTERNOON
PARK AVENUE CHRISTIAN CHURCH
NEW YORK, NEW YORK

Custom green paisley wedding invitations with wedding monogram

Bride and Groom’s parents inviting
 MR. AND MRS. BRIDE’S PARENTS
TOGETHER WITH
MR. AND MRS. GROOM’S PARENTS
JOYFULLY INVITE YOU TO WITNESS THE WEDDING OF
BRIDE AND GROOM
IN THE HISTORIC HUDSON VALLEY
MONTGOMERY PLACE,
25 GARDENER WAY, RED HOOK, NEW YORK
SATURDAY, JUNE 14TH, TWO THOUSAND FOURTEEN
SIX O’CLOCK IN THE EVENING

Custom dragonfly wedding invitation suite in navy and beige
Bride and Groom inviting (traditional)

BRIDE AND GROOM
TOGETHER WITH THEIR PARENTS
INVITE YOU TO JOIN THEM AS THEY CELEBRATE THEIR LOVE UNDER THE STARS
SATURDAY, THE FIFTH OF APRIL, TWO THOUSAND TEN
AT SIX IN THE EVENING
MOUNTAIN CREEK RESTAURANT
VAIL, COLORADO
DINNER AND DANCING TO FOLLOW RECEPTION

Custom gray pocket card invitations with bright colored accent

Bride and Groom inviting (fun/whimsical)
 
TOGEHTER WITH THEIR FAMILIES,

BRIDE AND GROOM
REQUEST THE PLEASURE OF YOUR COMPANY
AS THEY EXCHANGE UNWAVERING VOWS
OF LOVE AND MARRIAGE
ON SATURDAY, THE TWELFTH OF JULY
TWO THOUSAND AND EIGHTEEN
AT TWO O’CLOCK IN THE AFTERNOON
BELLEVIEW GRAND HOTEL
BELLAIRE BEACH, NORTH CAROLINA
Even though deciding on your wedding invitation wording can be a daunting task (for some), remember to do what’s best for you and your fiance. Keep things in perspective, consider etiquette, and your gorgeous wedding invitations will soon be out in the mail!