How to Plan a Stress-Free Mitzvah

Your son or daughter’s Bar/Bat Mitzvah is a beautiful, memorable event in your lives. Planning an event of such scale and importance can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be stressful. As with any large-scale event planning, the most important thing you can do to remain stress-free is to stay organized. With proper planning and by following a goal-oriented timeline, you’ll be able to plan and execute a memorable event that honors your child while remaining stress-free. To stay organized and plan a memorable Mitzvah, follow our recommended planning timeline below.

  • Schedule the date of your Bar/Bat Mitzvah with your Synagogue at least two years in advance. It won’t be too early to book a date on its calendar.
  • Set your budget. Your budget will help you make choices on all other factors from your total number of guests, to your venue, to your meal selection.
  • Form your guest list. Depending on the scale of the event, be sure to include family, friends, and everyone who has impacted your son or daughter’s path to adulthood.
  • Reserve your venue, caterer, photographer, and stationer at least 18 months in advance. You can typically wait to reserve your DJ or band until a year prior to the event. Make sure that you choose a venue that is appropriately sized, based on your guest list.
  • Decide on a theme. The theme of the Mitzvah should reflect the unique personality of Bat Mitzvah invitations custom New Jerseyyour son or daughter, so be sure to get your child’s input. Remember a theme is more than just a color scheme. Consider incorporating your child’s hobbies or favorite sports teams. Provide your theme to the reception hall, caterer, and stationer so they can help to provide you with inspiration and creative ideas.
  • If you expect to have a lot of family and friends who will be traveling from out of town, reserve a block of hotel rooms 9 months in advance.
  • Send save the date cards eight to twelve months in advance. A Mitzvah is a special event, and you want as many loved ones in attendance as possible. Encourage your guests to plan in advance for the day of the event so that they can make arrangements to attend.
  • Book with a florist six months in advance. Share with your florist information about your theme, including colors and style preferences. Show your florist your save the date invitation so he/she can get a sense of your theme and coordinate decorations accordingly.
  • Plan and order your favors. Make sure all of your guests leave with a memorable souvenir of your son or daughter’s special day.
  • Six to eight weeks before the event, send your formal invitations. Include RSVP cards or instructions to make sure you can track final attendance. Ask for all responses to be received three weeks before the day of the event.

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  • One-month prior, create hotel packages for out-of-town guests. Include candy and sweets that are locally made, maps of the area, brochures and coupons for local activities and attractions, and bottles of water.
  • Start working with your child to practice for the ceremony. Have him/her practice in front of several family members in different settings. It will help him/her to get comfortable reading the prayers and passages. Schedule a rehearsal with your Synagogue to make sure everyone involved in the ceremony knows how the event will play out.
  • Plan your seating chart. Place family members and friends from out of town who don’t often see each other at the same table so that they can spend extra time together.
  • Compile a list of songs for your DJ or band. Ask for input from your son or daughter to make sure his/her friends hear songs that make them excited to dance.
  • Confirm your final guest list and provide your final total number of guests to your caterer.
  • Write your speech. If you will be giving a speech for your child during the event, spend some time crafting your message in advance. Practice reading your speech out loud as well. Speaking at your son/daughter’s event may be an emotional experience, so the more familiar you are with your speech, the more comfortable you will feel presenting during the event.

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A Bar/Bat Mitzvah marks a coming of age for young people in the Jewish community. Mitzvahs are incredibly proud moments for parents. Make sure you get to enjoy each and every moment by staying organized and identifying the key steps in your planning process and the timing for completion of each item. By managing your time, you can make sure your son or daughter is celebrated and honored at a memorable ceremony you will never forget.

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Summer 2016 Wedding Color Trends

Is your summer calendar booked for every available weekend with invitations to bridal showers and weddings? Will you have the honor of serving as a bridesmaid in any of this summer’s festivities? Or, will you be the one walking down the aisle and saying “I do?” Whether you will be a guest, an attendant, or the bride-to-be, we are in the midst of wedding season! If you are a trend spotter (or a trend setter), then you likely want to know what colors you should expect to see gracing the runways (or rather, the flower-petal-strewn carpets) of wedding events this summer. Be in the know with our 2016 Summer Wedding Color Trend Guide.

We are spotting three important color trends this summer: shades of pewter and silver, rustic, earth tones, and pale grays and pinks. Each one offers a softer, more natural, and more feminine and sophisticatedly refined color theme than we have seen the past few summers.

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Pewter and Silver

Pewter and silver wedding themes allow the bride to shine. Surrounded by soft, muted shades of gray, white wedding dresses sing with elegance, rather than compete with bright, vibrant shades of poppy pinks, sunny yellows, and bold cobalt blues and deep jewel tones as we have seen the past few seasons. The idea of a bride being surrounded by shades of gray is reminiscent of engagement rings, modern tuxedos, and the comforting interior of traditional chapels and synagogues. Shades of gray weddings offer sophistication, simplicity, elegance and traditional style elements (Photo courtesy Fabmood.com).

 

Rustic Earth Tones 2016 wedding trends new jerseyRustic Earth Tones

Outdoor weddings are one of the blessings of the summer! For brides who want to be surrounded by the natural beauty of nature, rustic earth tones of deep greens, earthy rust, soft khakis, and warm sage compliment a bohemian dress, a farm-to-table catering approach, and elegant, but simple outdoor seating.

Rustic colors are the perfect complement to barn weddings, vineyard settings, and intimate backyard gatherings. (Photo courtesy Fabmood.com).

 

 

   

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Pale Grays and Pinks

Cool summery grays are popping-up again this summer, this time, complementing romantic pale blush tones, pink hydrangeas, and silky ivory linens.

We love the look of gray groomsmen’s suits with pale pink ties. It is elegant, classy, and completely seasonally appropriate for warm summer afternoons and cool summer evenings. To add a special touch to your color pallet, add hints of gold. With vibrant, but minute sparkles of gold contrasting white, gray, and pale pink, your wedding theme will touch every heart in attendance (Photo courtesy Fabmood.com).

RSVP to me has partnered with some trendy brides in the past and has had an opportunity to design stationery sets with similar color pallets. Check out some of our favorite shades of gray, rustic, and pale pink dessert tables and day of stationery in the photos below!

Shades of Gray

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Gray and Pink

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Pink and Gold

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Rustic Metallics

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Sweet by RSVP to me Designs an Elegant, Peony and Parasol-Inspired Wedding Shower Dessert Table for a Special Bride to Be

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Creative genius Kelly Adams and her unstoppable team of confectionary artisans recently created an elegant, peony and parasol-inspired dessert table for bride Melissa Poterala’s wedding shower brunch. Poterala, who is engaged to marry Daniel Bolger, celebrated her wedding shower on June 12, 2016 surrounded by friends and family at The Indian Trail Club in Franklin, Lakes, NJ. Sweet by RSVP to me’s dessert table proved that there is so much more to special occasion desserts than traditional cake. The ten-piece dessert table was adored by Poterala and her guests as they celebrated the forever love of a very special couple.

“I wanted something unique and special for my shower,” said Poterala. “Something more than a traditional white cake. I also wanted something that would complement the spring theme of the shower, and fit my color scheme of pink, olive green, and touches of glitter and gold. Kelly and her team more than exceeded my expectations!”

The team at Sweet by RSVP to me believes that every small detail matters in creating an unparalleled finished product. Poterala’s customized dessert table included individually wrapped pieces of bright pink and mint green taffy in large glass lidded vases. Chocolate lovers had their choice of milk chocolate-dipped pretzel rods or crunchy Oreo cookies drizzled with thin strips of white chocolate. Two trays of large decadent vanilla marshmallow pops stood on the table in neat tiers, reminiscent of a traditional white layered wedding cake. To add further pops of pink to Poterala’s event, the Sweet by RSVP to me dessert table included two trays of mini chocolate and vanilla cupcakes, topped with swirls of pink and white icing. All of the decadent desserts were created by the creative team at Sweet & Flour in Secaucus, New Jersey.

The centerpiece of the table was a rustic, nine-layer, naked pistachio wedding cake with an Italian raspberry Italian buttercream frosting created by the talented team at Sweet, Love & Cake. In between each spongy cake layer were think bands of pale pink frosting. The cake was adorned with fresh spring strawberries and was trimmed with exquisite fresh pink peonies. The finishing touches for the table included vases of fresh flowers, a white orchid garland, and a backdrop of parasols in rose pinks, soft peaches, gold and silver.

“It felt like spring,” said Poterala. “It felt bright, and warm, and cheerful, and hopeful, and most importantly, it felt like me. It was completely unique, which was exactly what I wanted!”

The dessert table was not the only creative, customized touch that Kelly and the RSVP to me team leant to Poterala’s shower. They also created customized invitations, favors, a seating chart, and place cards. Each stationery element was hand crafted to further complement Poterala’s spring them.

“Our goal with every stationery and dessert table or candy buffet project is to create something completely unique and personal,” said Kelly Adams, founder of RSVP to me. “For Melissa’s shower it was important to us that we created something that complimented her theme. Melissa told us to concept a dessert table and stationery set around the theme of spring flowers using pinks, and greens. Creating something special and timeless for Melissa’s spring-themed shower was an absolutely delight!”

Poterala and Bolger will marry on October 7, 2016 at The Crystal Plaza in Livingston, NJ.

Visit us online for more information on RSVP to me’s custom wedding and day-of stationery, and Sweet by RSVP to me’s customized dessert tables.

Photo Credits: Anna Hurt Photography